Anonymous said: Is it weird that the loner finds himself lonely?
There is no shame in being lonely; it is no less strange that a loner would eventually feel lonely. The only real advice to give is to find a way to feel something else, or else to remedy the loneliness.
Be careful, though—sometimes people change. High school friends start turning into jerks in college or something, and while you leave them messages every so often, they never get back to you. That pesky little seen message is all you get, and you are simultaneously pissed off and deeply saddened—yeah, that sucks. Big time.
Or when you burn credit on sending them a message because they use another cellular network, and they never have the decency to return a call or even text back, or at least find some way to get back to you. You think, hey, they must be busy and try to move on, but you cannot just shake that feeling that they just do not care anymore.
Then you go back on Facebook and see in pictures on your feed how much fun they seem to be having with their new friends—the ones who were never there when aforementioned friend broke down or ever needed support. Just, who the hell do they think they are? Then everything starts making sense.
Everyone moves on, and nobody cares about the loners who rarely even reach out. It must be said now that, sorry, people like us are doomed. No matter what we do, trying to remedy the loneliness only makes us more lonely. Find a hobby—something that will not end up disappointing you.
But I guess I answered beyond the scope of your question. [ And I intentionally held off answering this until it made sense to me. ] Be well, lonely friend. Avsked!